Day 8: Saying No To A Fear That Paralyzes


This post is a part of a series on Growing In The Midst of Change and Transition  

But what if we make the wrong decision?

This is the question that haunted me throughout our process.  After deciding to leave staff with a ministry that we had served with for over 11 years we were seeking God’s will for the next steps.

Decision making time is fertile ground for all sorts of fear weeds to grow.  Fear weeds strangle out the good and healthy things that God desires to grow in us.  They stunt growth.

Fear tells us that the pressure is on us to make the right decision.

Fear tells us that a wrong decision will lead to unredeemable consequences.

Fear will keep us where we are, not willing to take risks

Fear says, “God you do not love me, you are not good, I cannot trust you.”

“Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.” 1John 4:18 (NLT)

God loves us so much! My words can’t convince you fully of that but His Word and His Spirit can.  A lot of times I struggle to believe myself that He is good.  My eyes are too set on the things of this world, of the circumstances and “realities” I see all around me.

When I am in intimacy with my Father, getting to know Him through His Word and talking with Him, my view is better. When I am allowing myself to experience His perfect love and by His power believe, then I am less likely to believe the lies of the enemy that God has it out for me.

“If we are afraid it is for fear of punishment . . .”

Let’s say I have not been spending time in God’s Word and I have a decision that needs to be made TODAY.  Fear will tell me that that God will not lead me in that decision because of that.  Fear will keep me from running to God because I will see him as a harsh father shaking his head at me because i’m only coming to him because now I need something.

Love says that my Father cares for me and wants me to run to Him whether its been days, weeks, months or years.  If I am His, He sees me through Christ. He is not like our imperfect earthly Fathers.  He is God.  He is Love.

When we grow in this truth we really do grow in His grace – in the gospel.  We see that we can approach Him with anything because of Christ and the work He did on the cross. The cross can make our “wrong decisions” redeemable.

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Romans 8:28

May the Lord give us eyes to see, know and experience His perfect love so that we may know it fully and live in it.


5 Replies to “Day 8: Saying No To A Fear That Paralyzes”

  1. this is perfect! I’ve been struggling with regret of poor financial decisions I’ve made in the past year and I’ve been fleeing God’s presence because I was believing that I don’t deserve the Lord’s grace because I messed up. In God’s presence there is lots of grace and accepting grace when I felt I deserved to suffer just seemed wrong. Well that was disaster because I was trying to deal with the consequences of my bad financial decisions by myself which produced fruit of worry, doubt and anxiety. Praise God for the body! I have some awesome friends who called me out on my sin of trying to do everything in my own strength and not trusting God. I also had a friend who challenged me to follow Jesus into the Lord’s presence and man things have gotten better. Now I read this and it speaks volumes. Where was that 1 John verse 2 weeks ago?? Great stuff Sandy. I’m so glad u are doing this.

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